Yesterday I received some terrible news and they were confirmed true this evening. One person I’ve been in contact with lately is reported to have passed away last weekend. I knew the person wasn’t doing well, but I’d never expected such an abrupt interruption to a life of only 26 years. Although we weren’t that close “Kim” was someone I gave my attention to and to whom I let my thoughts wander for more than just one moment in my life. Like that someone you might meet every day, but only occasionally talk to although you think you’d really enjoy each other’s company if given a decent
As far as I know, the future didn’t look bright for this person during the last months. But isn’t there always some kind of chance to be a positive influence in someone else’s life?
So how do one affect peoples everyday life for the better around us? Is it as simple as by encouraging their strengths, or giving them an extra smile? Or could it be by giving them a gift you’d appreciate yourself? Maybe through simply avoiding unnecessary arguments or prejudging attitudes? What if showing your classmate some physical care through a warm hug or even by sharing their tears could save the day or even a life….? There are so many ways to show someone how you actually see them as an individual deserving of your love…
One thing we could all afford to ‘spend’ is actually our TIME. This is paradoxically often what we all need and appreciate the most. I don’t know how you best influence and affect people around you, or if you’ve even been disappointed yourself by someone elses absence during your hard situations. What if life’s anyhow too short not trying to reach out with or receiving thoughtfully invested time… ⌚️
Why not follow your intuition rather than your fears of what is ‘appropriate’ behaviour (or being too scared of stepping out of your comfort zone) when it comes to showing someone your appreciation?
I wish I’d have tried harder to be that someone for You “Kim”… I wish my comfort zone wasn’t such a silly and lame excuse. But as for now – R.I.P.
[“Kim” is not the person’s real name, but is being substituted as such out of respect for the person’s and beloved one’s integrity.]